Mother’s Day is the day that we honor those who raised us to become strong powerful women. The day that we embrace what Motherhood really is with gratitude,love and humility. Motherhood in itself is the greatest gift of all.
Definitely not for the faint hearten. You have to to be strong emotionally to deal with the overwhelming love that you have for your child, the type of love that is completely unconditional and sacrificial. A love that has no boundaries. Get used to wearing your “heart” attached to your apron strings literally. You have to be strong mentally to keep calm under high pressure daily. Namely that time Johnny/ Sarah decided it was a good idea to …I’m sure we could all fill the blanks in.
A patience that surpasses all understanding… Johnny please don’t do that for the umpteenth time… while holding your best poker face! You have to be physically strong to endure pain from childbirth, the pain that you will feel with every fall, knock, scratch or bruise. The pain of hearing other moms judging YOU, your parenting, your birth choice, your dress style and even your little one’s milestones. The biggest pain of all when your little one breaks your heart with their words or actions.
When we decided to embark on the beautiful journey of parenthood I always had this vision of being the perfect Mary Poppins Mum. You know the one with the kids drifting off while she sings them to sleep after a fun day of songs, learning and home baked apple pie. The mom who never raises a brow or tone. The mom who has so much energy that she just finished cleaning the home, baked delicious muffins, dinner is always ready at 6pm and the children are sound asleep having the most wonderful dreams about their fun filled day by 7pm.
I might not have had the energy but I followed that routine daily for a year until Mary Poppins became Momzilla. That was the day I needed to step back and reflect. Where did I go wrong? I stopped singing, I hated the things I once loved ,I was constantly exhausted and fell ill frequently. I was burning out…
I became a mother but I had lost myself along the way. I had given so much of myself that I had nothing left to give. I decided to find one thing that makes me happy and make it happen daily. Whether it was exercising, painting, baking, writing or taking a 15 minute Mummy time out!
Mummy Time Out!
When you’re feeling overwhelmed, exhausted or on the brink of unleashing Momzilla. Place the little one in the play pen or with your partner and explain that mummy needs a time out. Next move to another room in the house and lock the door. Spray the Mummy time out spritzer in the air, close your eyes and take deep breaths and visualise a place where you feel the most relaxed..lying on the beach, fresh sea breeze and soaking up the sun while you hear the waves crashing on the shore.. for 5-15 minutes. To make this more effective I actually use my son’s sleep aid that plays the sounds of the waves or the calming rain. You can find many CDs with natural sounds. The scent of lavender, clary sage and ylang ylang will calm you and restore your inner peace.
Try spraying some into the rest of the house it will create a very calm, peaceful atmosphere especially during bedtime.
You will need:
120 ml glass or metal bottle with a fine mist setting
60 ml of distilled water
4 drops of Lavender essential oil
3 drops of Clary sage essential oil
2 drops of Ylang Ylang essential oil
Add the water first then slowly add in the oils.
Gently swirl the bottle and spray a fine mist.
Feeling more relaxed?
Being a mummy is hard work but being paid in hugs, snuggles and kisses is the best gift of all!
Let me know what works for you in the comments section below!